When you’re getting married, you have a lot of things on your mind. Amidst all the planning and stressing, take some time and think about the people who are helping you out. That’s probably the members of your wedding party, including your maid or matron of honor, bridesmaids, best man, and groomsmen. Since they are volunteering to help you on this most important day, you should show them your appreciation by making their job as easy as possible. You should also show how much you appreciate them with more concrete ways of saying thank you.
First of all, don’t stress out our wedding party with too many requests or obligations. Having too many parties sounds like not much of a problem, but remember that they all take time, especially for the people being asked to plan the parties. This includes an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor and bachelorette parties, dinner rehearsal, and of course the wedding reception itself. That’s a lot of time to ask someone to spend on your wedding, so choose your parties carefully and make sure they’re actually fun.
Next, think about the financial demands you are placing on your wedding party. This is especially true if you’re planning a destination wedding, which many people consider a rather selfish choice unless you are planning to pay for the costs of travel and hotels. Even if you’re not traveling, you’re often asking your wedding party to pay for clothing they’ll never wear again. Tell your wedding party that, since they will be helping with your wedding, you do not expect a gift from them. That will relieve some of the financial pressure.
Finally, reward your wedding party with a gift to say thank you. Consider something that represents your strong point of view, like the bumper stickers sold here by Militaria Press. Pick a thank you gift that your wedding party members will really appreciate and use, not just a pretty trinket that says something about your wedding. Think about their needs and pick something they will actually value.
Your wedding party is giving up time and money to help make your big day a success. They are doing this because they care about you, and you should show them your appreciation. By considering their needs, you can make them glad to have volunteered for you.